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Coming Out Letter
This is a coming out letter that "John" wrote to his
parents:
I had just finished school and moved to New York. I
had planned on telling my parents in person that I
was gay when I stayed at their home the week before
I moved to the city, but I could never bring myself
to do it. I was just too nervous. So, I wrote it in
a letter about a month later and took it out to the
mailbox at about 1 am and dropped it in. I didn't
want to wait until the morning because I was afraid
I would chicken out. It turns out I slept really
well that night. Here is the letter I wrote them.
Mom
& Dad:
I
am writing to tell you something I have wanted to
tell you for a while now. I am gay. You probably
already know this, though. From the lack of
girlfriends and not dating and all, it has probably
been obvious to you longer than it has been to me.
I hope you donšt take this whole gay thing
negatively on how you raised me or anything. You did
a great job raising me. Your have given me a solid
self-respect along with respect for other people.
Just think how few young people today have been
raised with out this respect. This self-pride has
really helped me deal with being gay.
I have actually known I was gay since I was pretty
young. Probably in junior high. I just didn't know
what to call it. Also, for a while, I rebelled
against it by going to church a lot. I thought it
would "cure" me or something. Now I know there is no
"cure" because there is nothing wrong with being
gay. There are gay cats, dogs, cows, and birds. It
is a natural thing. The church kind of screwed me up
for a while but I learned from that experience.
Telling myself out loud that I am gay took a while
but it released so much pressure inside of me that I
wish I had been able to do it a long time ago. My
friends at school have helped me out by being
supportive, too.
I tried to tell you when I was home but the
opportunity never really presented itself. I want
you to call me when you have had time to think about
this. It took me a long time to accept being gay and
I realize it may take some time for you too. I want
to talk to you about this but will
wait for you to call me.
Love, John
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